By John Alexander
As a professional Psychologist, Internet Advice Columnist, and syndicated Talk Show Host, I often are asked by patients, fans, callers, and guests alike them, for dating advice, and I always tell everyone the same thing: "Keep your eyes open." Now, there is no advice on dating that is truly universal, but this comes close to almost any types of dating.
Keeping your eyes open will help you not only as relationship advice, but also really as a way to deal with all of the problems in your life. Of course, in order to use this dating advice properly, you must first properly understand it.
When I tell you to keep your eyes open, it means different things depending on the stage of your relationship. As dating advice for those who have recently found a partner, it means to be able to still look around you and not to fall completely into your relationship too fast.
There are many ways to meet people, so do not become too dependent on the person you are with, until you are sure that it is the relationship that you want. With Internet dating sites as popular as they currently are, there are even more fishes in the sea and Geographical Boundaries are lesser today than they ever have before.
Of course, my dating advice to "keep your eyes open" sometimes means a different thing to people with problems in an ongoing relationship. If, for example, you are in a dedicated relationship and your partner suddenly becomes less involved, my dating advice means to realize that it is not just a phase, as most people are likely to assume. Something is going wrong. Perhaps there is infidelity, or perhaps there is decreasing desire for the relationship in either party.
No matter whom you are trying to meet, my dating advice would be to stay out of denial, and make sure to carefully pay attention to what your partner says and does. It is the only way to find out what is really going on, and how it can be fixed if there is any problem.
Of course, dating advice for the chronically single is another matter in total. If you have tried all of the options including the local bar scene, social organizations, and Internet dating services, you should keep your eyes open to the possibility of the problem that concerns you.
Maybe you are unable to emotionally commit to your partner, or are just too young and flighty for a relationship. Whatever the reason, my dating advice should lead you to some pretty heavy soul searching.
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